Heels + dress + night clubs = desperate slut

Becki DeGeestThe other day in one of my classes, we had to discuss things we never do and why.

I wasn’t really sure what to say, because it could be anything as simple as why I never curl my hair to why I never go skydiving.

Eventually, I decided on something, which was, “Why I never wear sweatpants.”

I said this because they don’t look good on me; they make me feel lazy; I like to dress up more and they don’t make me feel confident. The list goes on based on those four things.

We got paired with someone to tell these reasons to and explain why. I shared my reasons with the girl, and then she went on to share hers. Hers were, “Reasons why I never wear heels.”

I thought to myself, “Okay yeah, I can understand why girls wouldn’t wanna wear heels. They’re not good for your feet; they hurt; they aren’t easy to walk in, etc.” but this was not her reasoning.

Her reasoning was that girls walk funny in them; there are no clubs in Fargo-Moorhead, so there is no point in dressing up; she doesn’t have money for that kind of stuff and last, but not least, they make girls look slutty, and she’s not desperate.

When she said those things, I was hurt and was thinking it was a good thing I didn’t wear my heels that day.

I didn’t say anything when she said this; however, mainly because I was boiling with anger. Then, I went back to my room and thought about it some more.

I thought, “Do people really think heels make a girl look desperate or slutty?”

So, of course, I Googled “Do girls who wear heels look slutty?” And I was shocked by some answers.

A lot of men and women say that it depends what the girl is wearing with the heels… okay right, well then it’s not the shoe then, huh? Duh!

I do believe it is true that heels do make a woman look more attractive, or maybe more desirable, but I definitely don’t believe that women look desperate by trying to look attractive: a.k.a. wearing heels.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years now, and I like dressing up on a daily basis for him, but mainly I dress up for myself. I like looking in the mirror and thinking, “wow, I look good today,” and there is nothing wrong with that.

I’m not saying I dress amazing every day, because I don’t, but I do like to dress up, and occasionally I wear heels.

I’m sure this girl wasn’t trying to offend me or anyone, and who knows – maybe she will see this. People (men and women) really need to be more considerate, and think about the other person.

It is absolutely fine if you do not want to dress up or if you like wearing sweatpants. I’m not going to judge you, but simply wearing a shoe is not going to make you a slut or desperate.

BY BECKI DEGEEST
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